Friday, December 18, 2009

Sirih Junjung


I have to admit, when I'm engaged, what's inside the heart isn't the same like previously. Ok, stop there. No more about what's inside the heart thing to tell to the world. Ngeee :D

The preparation for the big day has started although it's scheduled in May or June next year. There are some renovations made in my house including making the front yard bigger, installing tiles in some parts of the house, and I hope the other bathroom will be repaired too (because it has been for cats sanitation room for years since it doesn't function properly) so that I will not share my bathroom with my brothers anymore when I have my wife in the house. :)

Other than that, there had been a lengthy discussion about the hantaran for the wedding. We hadn't mutually decided the number of hantarans for the big day, but one thing that had been a long discussion between my family and I was about sirih junjung.

I said no for sirih junjung, while my family said it's essential.

My argument was it's no more consumed by people nowadays. In fact, for other sets of hantaran, I want to make sure they can benefit the receiver i.e. my currently fiancée's family and herself too. So, in case of sirih junjung, I think we have other options other than the not-consumed sirih and other recipes in it. Basically, to me, the sirih junjung is a waste. (Not that I did not respect the culture, but culture may change, not religion. We can change the culture, right?)

However, my family said it's a culture in wedding ceremony that needs to be followed. Without it, the ceremony will not be complete (which I had a big problem to agree).

I brought the discussion with my officemates and one of them shared her sibling's story in which they prepared a combination of sirih junjung and chocolate in one set of hantaran. The sirih was more like a decoration, which to me was a good idea. I will tell my family about this.

Not only sirih junjung, but there are a lot of things in our Malay Muslim community that has cultural interventions, not necessarily all, which make simple thing a hard and difficult thing to achieve. When it comes to marriage and the ceremony, stuffs like pelamin, mas kahwin, wang hantaran are among the issues raised and we need to discuss and deal with it. (I have to be grateful to have future family like my fiancée's that stands strong to the religion and not the culture too much.)

On top of it, I will always make sure to my best that I do not break anyone's heart especially my family members and my fiancée's family. Insya Allah...

May Allah bless and ease our efforts towards the big day. Amin...

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

sirih junjung cmpur ngan buah pon lawa

bawangmerah said...

tahniah atas pertunangan!
[ ampun for the late wish XD ]

nadz said...

i totally agree with u..u have same great opinions with my dad=)

azuwa said...

sirih junjung takde, tak lengkap hantaran kahwin.

ini pandangan skeptikal saye. hehe.

norain said...

kadang2 kita kena agree je dgn diorang...kalo lebih2 sgt komplen takut menjejaskan hubungan antara family plak...selagi tak melanggar agama, masih boleh difikirkan...orang2 tua mmg susah nak buang adat2 nih...biasa la tu..

As said...

masa my bro's wed last sept, at first ibu and abang said no need for sirih junjung...but then all elderly said, it is essential..but then we have it in a diff way, sumting beneficial....

thus u cud implement wat ur office-mate had suggested, rite :)
food (eg: choc, fruit..etc...as creative as u can :) )

even hantaran untuk buah, biasa kita tgk bermcm buah mcm anggur, tembikai etc campur2...
i was a bit amazed tgk hantaran my bro, just letak 4-5 bijik buah epal besar, which is nampak sgat cun, sebab merah segar :D

huhu jas for sharing...
cerita pasal ni memang menarik dan bersemangat kan..
papepun didoakan mudah urusan :)

Master J said...

ok.. tips for my future reference ;)

myadlan said...

haha. i think most of the modern muslim like us will face this kinda challenge especially from our own family. its an interesting debate between religion and custom.

try to learn how young ustazs deal with them.

:: !zyan :: said...

there's a lot more arguments when it comes to the so called "big day"!

everyone must stay in 'this' boat =p

be smart bro.

atbk said...

szakif, secara rasminya aku adalah junior ko!
hahaha

alang2 nak selit2 coklat, buat je daun2 sirih tu daripada coklat trus . zero pembaziran! haha

tak pun ko susun 'szakif pai' kecik2, kaler ijo,
susun2 jadi sirih junjung..
"pai junjung" la jadi nyer haha

tahniah!
tp serius, menuju ke majlis kawin mmg pening kepala, so bykkan bersabar, jgn fikir detail sgt, fikir yang penting2 je...

unless ko mmg xde keje lain, buatlah majlis kalahkan mak iti ngggeeeeee

atbk said...

kalu nak pakai penari zapin
kanak2 or dewasa...
calling2 la hehehe

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